I was watching a manifestation guru do a Q+A once, and someone asked her, basically, "What about people who are assaulted? Did they manifest that?" And she couldn't find a way to say "yes" without sounding like an absolute asshole--though bless her, she did try. There's so much toxicity in that space that I made a quick exit. Toxic positivity gets talked about, spiritual bypassing gets talked about, but I think the deeply rooted culture of shaming gets missed.
We can't control everything--or even very much--and that's so scary. (And maybe so liberating.)
I think it is liberating, now. I carried the burden of wondering if I caused the loss of my twins for so long simply because I had believed so strongly that I was somehow in control of this. Finally accepting I wasn’t gave me the freedom to grieve the loss, accept the sad outcome, and move on differently.
I was watching a manifestation guru do a Q+A once, and someone asked her, basically, "What about people who are assaulted? Did they manifest that?" And she couldn't find a way to say "yes" without sounding like an absolute asshole--though bless her, she did try. There's so much toxicity in that space that I made a quick exit. Toxic positivity gets talked about, spiritual bypassing gets talked about, but I think the deeply rooted culture of shaming gets missed.
We can't control everything--or even very much--and that's so scary. (And maybe so liberating.)
I think it is liberating, now. I carried the burden of wondering if I caused the loss of my twins for so long simply because I had believed so strongly that I was somehow in control of this. Finally accepting I wasn’t gave me the freedom to grieve the loss, accept the sad outcome, and move on differently.